Review: The Way Love Goes: A Guide to Building a “Beaurtiful” and Everlasting Relationship – Da Brat & Judy

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Hip-hop legend “Da Brat” DuPart and her wife Judy DuPart, stars of WEtv’s highly rated reality series Brat Loves Judy, share their journey to the altar and parenthood in this candid relationship guide and marriage memoir.

Hip-hop legend Da Brat and beauty entrepreneur Jesseca “Judy” Harris-Dupart’s love story is as heartwarming as it is improbable. As rumors about her sexuality abounded, “Brat” believed she would remain “in the closet” until she took her last breath. But lightning struck when the rapper and the businesswoman met in 2017. Though their chemistry was instant and undeniable, the two went their separate ways.

Reconnecting at the Essence Festival a few years later, Da Brat made the bold decision to publicly come out and confirmed their relationship in March 2020. Their love blossoming into their own successful reality show Brat Loves Judy, and two years later their marriage. Within a few months of sharing vows, the couple announced that Da Brat was pregnant, and on July 6, 2023, the pair welcomed a baby boy named True Legend Harris-Dupart.

Part memoir and part relationship guide, The Way Love Goes, is laugh-out-loud funny and filled with warmth and love—just like its authors. Told in Da Brat’s signature Chicago tone, and Judy’s distinctive New Orleans patois, they each take turns detailing common relationship challenges, from sharing successful and meaningful communication to creating balance to coping with jealousy—and how they conquered them.

I’ve been a fan of Da Brat for years and started learning about Jesseca “Judy” Harris-DuPart when their relationship became public. Watching their reality show and following Judy online gave me the basics, but this book goes much deeper. Instead of just hearing a love story, it feels like they’re letting you in on something personal.

The book stands out not because of the big moments we already know, but because of its honesty about fear, patience, and timing. Da Brat writes openly, as if she never thought she’d share this part of her life, while Judy’s words are steady and supportive. Together, they show that love can be gentle but strong, and committed without being controlling. You really see them learning about each other, not just loving each other.

The audiobook is a must-listen and pairs perfectly with the hardcover. Hearing them tell their own story adds so much; the pauses, the laughter, the emotion, and the moments that stay with you. It feels personal, like you’re right there with them. As Judy would say, it was beaurtiful! (no typo)

This isn’t a perfect love story, and that’s exactly what makes it relatable. It’s about making choices, growing, and letting yourself be truly seen, even when it’s hard.

Recommended Reading!

Reviewed by: Orsayor

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