Review: SMITTEN: Romantic Obsession, the Neuroscience of Limerence, and How to Make Love Last by Tom Bellamy, PhD

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A groundbreaking exploration of the psychology of infatuation, how to recognize it, and how to move beyond it towards a healthier experience of love.

“Butterflies” in the stomach, intrusive thoughts, fantasies about imaginary scenarios, mood swings from euphoria to despair… aren't these all the familiar hallmarks of new love? Not quite. These are characteristics of the psychological state of “limerence,” also known as obsessive, passionate or addictive love that can become unhealthy.

Millions of people experience limerence at some point in their life. In this book, neuroscientist Tom Bellamy explores advances in neuroscience since the term was coined in the 1970s, and sheds light on this little-understood element of the human experience. Discover:

· what drives limerence
· how to recognize limerence in yourself and others
· how to manage the phases of addiction to another person
· how to move past it to sustain longer, more fulfilling relationships.

With supportive advice about next steps, this book will help readers struggling with unwanted feelings to find emotional equilibrium. Rooted in neuroscience, this book offers practical guidance for those experiencing obsessive love and seeking a path to a healthy relationship.

This book is one of those that gently makes you reflect on yourself. SMITTEN explains the difference between love and limerence in a way that feels honest, caring, and reassuring. Bellamy never judges the strong feelings many of us have experienced. Instead, he shows why the butterflies, constant thoughts, and emotional ups and downs feel so real and intense, and how our brains are deeply involved.

The author doesn’t lecture you; instead, you feel supported. The book helps you notice patterns you might have accepted for a long time and guides you toward healthier emotions, while still respecting how deep those feelings can be. It’s especially helpful in showing when passion turns into obsession and what you can do to move past it.

This isn’t a dramatic relationship book. It’s steady and clear. It’s thoughtful, informative, and quietly gives confidence to anyone who has ever wondered why love can feel overwhelming instead of safe.

Reviewed by: Orsayor

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